Many Still Feel That a Glass of Wine is Safe During Pregnancy-”I’m Drinking for Two”NY Post Article

A New York Post online article shares the story about a woman who was told to take a glass of wine during her pregnancy. There are many comments on the blog for and against this practice.

New York Post article , “I’m Drinking for Two “about wine during pregnancy.

Take a few minutes to read the article and share your insights, opinions and rant.

Do You Think a Bar Should Refuse to Serve Drinks to Pregnant Women?

There is a very active discussion going on on a site called Today’s Mom.  The story is told about a  visibly pregnantwoman who went out with some friends and ordered a glass of wine. The bar attendant  refused to serve her because she was pregnant.  Please take a minute to read the post and add your comment.

Read the post about the refusal of a bar to serve a pregnant woman.

Do you agree with some of the comments?

Women’s Treatment Speciality (WTS) Credential Courses Now Available in New Jersey

The Women’s Treatment Specialty (WTS) Credential Courses provide a comprehensive approach regarding the complex issues and challenges that women using substances face. Developed by the Certification, Inc., the WTS is considered an add-on. The required 5 courses are provided once per week for 5 weeks. This Series is being offered to professionals in the Northern New Jersey area in collaboration with the Certification Board Inc. and the Perinatal Addiction Prevention Project of the Northern New Jersey Maternal/Child Health Consortium.

You can register for the  Women’s Treatment Specialty Credential Courses by clicking this link and downloading the pdf brochure and registration form.

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Perfectionists at Risk for Postpartum Depression?

According to a recent article in  Livescience, New mothers who think they should be perfect parents might be at risk for postpartum depression, a new study suggests.   The results show that a type of perfectionism in which individuals feel others expect them to be perfect, known as “socially prescribed perfectionism,” is associated with postpartum depression for first-time mothers.

The study is one of the first to look how perfectionism affects women’s ability to adjust to life after childbirth. It involved 100 first-time mothers in Toronto, Canada, who filled out questionnaires to assess their level and type of perfectionism as well as feelings of depression.   The link between perfectionism and postpartum depression was strongest amongst those who try to deal with perfectionism by appearing as if they don’t have a problem.   “What this suggests is that there might be some new mothers out there who might seem like everything is fine, in fact it might seem like everything is perfect,” said Gordon Flett, a professor of psychology at York University in Canada. “[But] in fact it’s just the opposite, that they’re feeling quite badly but they’re pretty good at covering it up.”

  This finding is particularly concerning, because it means friends and family might not realize their loved one is suffering from depression.

“This tendency to put on this front usually means that people don’t tell other people when they’re doing badly, so somebody might not know that a young women is having difficulty; they might have no clue whatsoever,” Flett said. “And there’s sadly some cases where the family says ‘We thought everything was fine,’ and the next thing we know, the person is no longer with us,” he said.

The results underscore the need to dispel the myth of the “perfect parent,” Flett said.   “I think it’s just important for new mothers and fathers to just realize, ’Hey, you haven’t got a lot of experience with this, you don’t’ need to be perfect, you don’t need to be absolutely the best parent in the world,’” Flett said. “You need to just be able to experience the role, do your best, and your best is good enough.”   But if these perfectionistic mothers tend to hide their depression, how can friends and physicians identify that there’s a problem?  

One clue might be when a woman appears to be adjusting a little too well to her new life as a mother — someone who “appears to be making [the situation] much more rosier than it is, who seems to be doing absolutely amazingly well with this transition,” Flett said.   The key is to try to get new mothers to speak about their experience in realistic terms as opposed to just saying what they think people want to hear.  

The issue could also be addressed through classes for parents-to-be, Flett said. “They could very easily incorporate an emphasis on not wanting to be perfect, and to not be too hard on yourself as you’re making the transition,” he said.

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Obesity and Childbearing

Extreme maternal obesity may be contributing to birth defects, or even death for mothers and babies.  To read this article on the perils of obesity on childbearing click here.

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